Rule #1

You are in public.

In this fallen world of constant exposure each of us is being viewed. Whether it's friends who only think the best, prospective employers looking for the one drunk photo or exes looking for the fat picture to excoriate, we are all nigh-constantly under a microscope.

This is not entirely a bad thing.

We all have regrettable moments that make us approachable and human, and the occasional foible (provided it is either innocuous or so scandalous that others are overwhelmed with envy) makes us relatable. Too often, however, we mistake the momentary zest of grossly inappropriate conduct for being interesting and later act surprised at how immature all of our friends are or cause others social suffering by spending the night apologizing because we "aren't always like this." There's little balance between the rendered artifice of our profiles and the actuality of people who have bad days and off moments.

Let's learn how to behave ourselves, shall we?

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Deshabille contains thoughts and musings on how to comport oneself approachably with a bit of artistry and class.

Away we go.